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Sunday, November 02, 2008 @ 4:12 AM

Love is quite the opposite in these cases. Though it may seem like an unreasonable liking, you will eventually realize that what attracts you might not necessarily be good, but along with the aspects of your personality, those characters will go perfectly. That is, what matters is not the absolute, but the relative. What appears flawless to you might be perceived as worthless by someone else. Love is about finding a perfect match to your temperament. Also, love does not allow us to be ignorant about our partner’s wrongs. On the contrary, it is something that makes us want to seek and reform those imperfections – together.

The most important test of love is its strength. Love must pass the test of time. Something that vanishes in a month or a year is nothing more than an infatuation. Love must endure occasional pangs of jealousy. Even the truest and most trusting of lovers can become suspicious at times. The reason behind this is that a true lover will always consider his/her partner as more desirable than any other person in the world and this can sometimes make them be uncertain of other peoples’ intentions towards their partner.

Love is an unblemished emotion while an infatuation is sometimes just lust masquerading as true devotion.


How to be fair in a relationship argument?

1) Avoid speaking at the same time. It can lead to confusion.

2) Don't blame, accuse your partner this will put them on the defensive.

3) Communicate each other's positive qualities

4) Avoid being judgmental

5) Don't try to communicate when a person is in a bad mood

6) Don't expect your partner to guess what you want. Say it yourself

7) Don't save up issues and spring them on your partner when he or she raises an issue with you

8) When you raise an issue, stay focused on that issue until it is resolved.



Friday, January 18, 2008 @ 3:36 AM

fly me to the moon
and let me dance among the stars
fly away from here
from all the sadness and memories
from all the shivers and worries
from all the tingling emotions

fly me to the place
where only my heart still skip..
where only my soul cries..
where only starlight sinks..

The End


Thursday, November 22, 2007 @ 3:18 AM

my work is a bore.

Time is on my side.. guess it's about time to pay more attention to my poor blog.. im so so sorry!

S.H.E 'Lao po' is playing at the office computer beside me.. and its bringing tears to my eyes. It's the song i tell myself not to listen again.. those memories.. how hurtful.. how aching.. everytime single time i think about us, looking thru the photos.. the hurt is so deep. for us both. and im truly am sorry. but no matter how much i said it, how sincere i said it, we both are hurt and nothing can be undo.

It's fate we met. It's fate we ended.

3 more days to he and my supposedly one year. and even at this very moment, i dont even know where are we heading.. those words you said to me, it cuts deep into the heart. no matter how generous a person i am, i am still a gal, a human being with feelings. and even over msn yesterday, we cant even hold a proper conversation. this is gettin all so wrong..

i hate it when my life is bound by all these troubles
i hate it when i cant control my emotions
i hate it when i feel so vexed when i see how old my dearest have become
and i hate it that i cant do anythin about it except to make them smile

i wan to get away
run away
hide away
i hate my life. infinite.


Sunday, October 07, 2007 @ 11:56 PM

everyone around me are in reputable high profile big banks.. isnt thats what i always wanted.. forseeing myself in one of them?

it makes me feel miserable somehow that all others are going to be one step ahead of me.. and i have to stay on until my coy makes its name..

miserable. anguish. regrets. truly reflect my whole life.

mayb its time to move on with such thoughts. i should be contended with my pay. but in half a year's time, my pay will most proby become nothing when all my friends get their pay rise.. my puny-dont-know-when-starts-going-live coy will never give pay rise so soon.. never.

haix.

yes im career minded, or even money minded. im addicted to seeing the happiness in my parents face whenever i give them household monnie during my pay day. i finally truly feels that im doing something for the family. and i need to learn to take things more seriously and learn the art of not trusting anyone in this pugilistic corporate world.

n im still contemplating whether to change to livejournal, wordpress or xanga.

any ideas anyone?


Monday, August 27, 2007 @ 10:08 PM

i feel so bad neglecting my poor blog..

im sorry baby blog.. i promise i will spend more time on u.. okay?

n ive yet to update those looong outdated post.. not that anyone cares to read it, nor i wana think back those memories.. sometimes it jus hurt so bad.. i wonder where i got the strength to forgive n forget

work seems to be the only thing that keeps me occupied now. even thou there sure is bound to be conflict at work.. i love what i am learning. and i love my group of wonderful colleagues. i pray that nothing will go wrong..




Tuesday, July 10, 2007 @ 1:32 AM

i have alot alot alot to update. just in case you're wondering if my blog is dead..

the sabah trip
my bdae tioman trip
losing a precious friend


but..

jus havin no strength to upload n describe the long outdated post..
shall do it when ive more time..

im addicted to job search and dating with deckie everyday now.. ha

anyway.. a good friend showed me this verse he came up with.. and i find it reali meaningful..


真爱其实很平凡,穿平凡的衣服,

住平凡的房子,吵吵闹闹的过日子,

然后还是觉得很幸福,那才是真爱

many people have long forgotten the meaning of true love..
..

edited* okay.. my fren lied.. he got it from the movie turn left turn right.. -.- but its stil a meaningful verse..


Sunday, June 17, 2007 @ 3:29 PM

no more 'we' no more 'together'

everything is singular now.

'I', 'You' and 'alone'.


@ 4:45 AM

this time, it really happened. he's very clear that this is the end. he's very tired of trying.

even after i asked for another chance (when it really triggers off from minor stuff that im angry abt)

i know from day one he will be the one to end this rs, cos i will never have the heart to break up with anybody. 5 bfs and 5 broke up with me. yes im a loser. this really say something about me right.

i resigned to my Yap family vicious cycle of temper. throughout all these years.. i have tried very very hard to curb my temper, i may succeed in one way or other, but i have never succeeded in controlling my tone when im angry. it's all too late to change now. i am almost 23 year old and being single 2 weeks before my birthday n 1 day before my graduation trip.

hell' yes, im a loser.

even in the middle of the night when im sobbing.. devastated.. my parents are in the background shouting (yes i mean literally shouting at the top of their voice at 4am) that im sheng jing bin. really sheng jing bin, yada yada. great! that helps.. roll eyes*

'lets just go through this vacation once and for all' he said. and then its separate ways..
yes.. like how easy u can make it sound, but i can forsee myself crying at the sight of every beautiful scenery i seen, wishing we were still tgr, crying when i see jia n jai, jen n ah gu, two couples happily indulging in their vacation mood. jus cannot stop crying. i hate being a water sign. even worst a cancerian.

im so dreading the trip that im not even in the mood to start packing. yes, im leaving in 14 hours time.

if only he's not so insistent, if only he's not by my side during the trip as a friend status now, i may be looking forward the trip as an escapism.. but now.. i feel like im going on the trip to make myself even more devastated.

oki i felt like im dying. giddy. crushed. tired. haggard. lost.

i bet an incident like this, breaking up few hours before the trip, happens only once in a million. mayb i should count myself lucky.

yaya self denial.

for ppl who hate/dislike me but stil reading this pathetic blog, u can celebrate that ive met my doom once again. horray*


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